If you're someone who needs the TV on, you're not broken. You're coping. But it might be worth asking what you'd hear if you gave the silence five minutes. Not to torture yourself. Just to listen.
The house goes quiet. The dishes are done. Your partner's breathing has slowed. And then it starts.
Neuroscience research on sleep latency shows that the brain doesn't wind down when external noise disappears. It ramps up. A network called the Default Mode Network (DMN) activates in the absence of stimulation, flooding consciousness with self-referential thought — replaying conversations, projecting tomorrow's failures, auditing your life against some internal scorecard you didn't consciously set. The quieter the room gets, the louder the processing becomes. Auditory input during pre-sleep states appears to interrupt this loop, which is why so many people instinctively reach for the remote. Not because they're lazy or addicted to screens, but because a rerun of a show they've seen four times feels safer than whatever their brain is about to serve up.
That gap between the last distraction and sleep is where the trouble lives. And most of us have been filling it since long before we understood why.
Sound familiar?
The silence isn't empty, it's full
A University of Strasbourg study found that racing thoughts at bedtime predicted insomnia severity more than general worry or rumination alone. It's not that you're thinking. It's that your thoughts are sprinting, and you can't get off the track.
For some people, the DMN activation is fine. A little gentle reflection before sleep. For ruminators? It's an ambush.
The TV isn't noise, it's a shield
Have you ever wondered why it's always the same show? Why people don't fall asleep to new, gripping dramas but to sitcoms they've watched a dozen times?
Cleveland Clinic psychologist Dr. Chivonna Childs notes that over half of Americans likely fall asleep with the TV on, and describes it as soothing, almost like white noise.
Basically, the TV gives your brain something external to latch onto, suppressing that self-focused loop the DMN loves so much.
Experiential avoidance is the deeper layer
There's a concept in psychology called experiential avoidance. It's the habitual unwillingness to sit with uncomfortable internal experiences, whether that's anxiety, sadness, shame, or just a vague sense of dread you can't quite name.
The remote isn't turning on entertainment. It's turning off introspection.
What are people outrunning? Usually unprocessed stress. Low-grade anxiety that hums all day without ever getting addressed. Sometimes it's the gap between who you are and who you thought you'd be by now. That one tends to get louder after 40.
What the habit is really telling you
"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our freedom to choose." Viktor Frankl said that, and it's relevant here.
The TV habit isn't the problem. It's a symptom. A signal. It's your brain telling you that something needs processing and it hasn't found a daytime outlet for it.
Professor of psychiatry, Dr. Aric Prather, calls rumination the number one sleep killer, and his recommendation is surprisingly simple. Schedule "worry time" during the day. Fifteen minutes where you actually sit with the things you've been deferring. Write them down if it helps. Let the deferred feelings have somewhere to go before bedtime.
The path to sleeping without the TV isn't about discipline or willpower. It's about giving your unprocessed feelings a place to land before the lights go out.
That might look like journaling. It might look like a walk. For me, it's often an afternoon photography walk around Venice Beach.
A Sleep Foundation poll found that 72.6% of U.S. adults watch TV before bed, climbing to 81.6% among adults 54 and older. That's not a character flaw in three-quarters of the population. That's a society-wide signal that most of us haven't figured out what to do with the space between our last distraction and sleep.
The bottom line
The TV was never the villain here. But calling it harmless isn't quite honest either. Avoidance that works every night is still avoidance. It's a strategy that succeeds at its immediate goal — suppressing the loop — while ensuring the underlying material never gets processed. The comfort it provides has a cost, even if the cost is invisible until you try to stop.
The real question isn't whether the TV helps you fall asleep. It does. The real question is what you've arranged your entire evening around never having to face. And whether the thing you're protecting yourself from is actually dangerous — or just unfamiliar.
What would you hear if you gave the silence five minutes tonight? Not five minutes of trying to relax. Five minutes of actually listening.
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Jordan Cooper
Jordan Cooper is a food and culture writer based in Venice Beach, California. Before turning to writing full-time, he spent nearly two decades working in restaurants, first as a line cook, then front of house, eventually managing small independent venues around Los Angeles. That experience gave him an understanding of food culture that goes beyond recipes and trends, into the economics, labor, and community dynamics that shape what ends up on people’s plates.
At VegOut, Jordan covers food culture, nightlife, music, and the broader cultural forces influencing how and why people eat. His writing connects the dots between what is happening in kitchens and what is happening in neighborhoods, bringing a ground-level perspective that comes from years of working in the industry rather than observing it from the outside.
When he is not writing, Jordan can be found at live music shows, exploring LA’s sprawling food scene, or cooking elaborate meals for friends. He believes the best food writing should make you understand something about people, not just about ingredients.
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